Health tips experience

This time around I am going to start sharing with you my experience on health tips... I got some requests from my friends and relatives to share some experiences about my heatlh tips right after birth... Since a friend of mine just recently received a good news that she is positively pregnant by a doctor...I guess I may want to share my experience on the health tips during confinement which I think most of us have similar and different traditional ways and methods...

I may want to write in 'rojak' language as most of the practices are by us, Asian. However it is good to share our traditional remedies, treatments and 'pantang' with others...

Hmmm...actually I am not the expert in this...however they are all my mak's (my mom)traditional 'rules' and 'regulations' during confinement. As we all know the 'pantang' after birth will be like 44 days, about 1 and 1/2 months and for career moms, we will be getting 2 months maternity leave. But for me my 'pantang' goes up to 100 days...

Waduh!! if I skip, mak's mouth will never stop grumble, mumble and telling me my body will be this...my skin will be that...my face will look older than my age... You know how tired you will be when you are at this age to be scolded like you are a little girl. But Thank you mak!, I love you...huhuhuhu... if not... I'll be like 'tong drum'.

I've got my three kids through ceasarian and my mak will usually be taking care of me and new born baby my during the confinement period. Once the hospital discharged me... the 'pantang' starts for me and the baby. The first 1 month, it was usually like in the 'prison'... So my mak will be incharged...

I'll be usually probihited to go out of the house except for hospital check ups. In the morning until late afternoon, my hands and legs will be covered with param and my forehead will be covered with pilis...they are traditional 'powder' which you better dont asked me the ingredients... The smell...wow so...traditionally 'bitter'...

My abs and stomach will be tight with special corset which made from a long cloth and before i wear it, i have to put some jamu mixed with lime to apply on my stomach... Jangan tanya how the smell...huhuhu...I also have to wear socks and sweather even the day was so hot outside and I was sweating like so much! Do not take off your sweater nor your socks - warned my mak!!!! huhuhu

Early in the morning, usually I took jamu (traditional herbs) and we used to called it 'jamu rapat!'...hehehehe), milk and a piece of plain bread. Lunch time the menu will always be rice porridge with vegetables...jangan yang sejuk-sejuk but most of the time will be spinach, cabbage or kailan (produce more milk for breastfeeding), fish and haruans boiled (yuck!) and more fish and once a while meat but only boiled and soup menu...NO CHICKEN or EGG AND NO SEAFOODS...ONLY FISHES!!!! Nanti gatal and your wounds won't dry that fast plus the scar will obviously seen. In the evening the same menu and after that consume my jamu..lots of them and drink lots of plain warm water. Warm only huh...my mom kept on reminding....love you so much mak!!!!

I also need to get enough sleep that would be during the baby sleeps because as we all knows babies love to wake up at night just to have their 'supper', more late 'supper' and very very early breakfast like 3-4 am. ...No matter what I love all of you my little angels...

That was not all, I was prohibited to take bath for 1 week then after that, only 1 time per day with only warm water until 1 month. Usually I would continue my jamu as my supplements for at least 3 months, no cold water, no chicken and egg for 3 months too or at most 100 days. I would have to follow my mak pantang rules in my meals for the most 100 days. She asked me to maintain my jamu and meals if possible 4-5 months to maintain ideal weight and inner healing.

She told me the reasons behind all these rules will be seen immediate after my pantang and also later when I am getting much more older and will still maintain youthful skin and looks..Wah!

She did told me, the param and pilis were to make sure 'tak masuk angin', so our body would not easily feels aching here and there. The socks and sweater to make sure our body remains warm and those blood veins and whatevet veins lah..(urat-urat) won't appear on your skin espacially legs.

Vegetables and fish are the best meals for diet. Warm water is the best drink, milk will best for our bones for calcium absorbance, jamu is to maintain the inner healing of our body and to keep youthful looking skin and body figures. The special corset is to reduce the the bulging stomach after birth as well the jamu put on stomach is for reducing the strech mark.

Hmmm...I truly believe the 'pantang' rules paid off. Because everytime after my child delivery, I will reduce my weight much more faster and slimmer before I was pregnant. I also do not have much problem about aching here and there, I actually did not see any blood veins on my legs...Alhamdullillah...

I do not have much problems on major freckles, pimples and major wrinkles yet...and I also do not have major hair fall problem after delivery. Alhamdullillah...Ya Allah...all I want is for me to be healthy.... However, after 5 months and above...usually my problem will be I CANT REALLY MAINTAIN MY IDEAL WEIGHT...HUHUHU JUST BECAUSE...I CAN'T RESIST FOOD...huhuhuhu....

I need to change my diet and maybe find time to pamper myselt at sauna, swimming (like I used to do before married)....hurmmm if got lot of money..maybe should get slimming treatment for few sessions... Marie France, Mayfair, Slim World!!! Or maybe liposuction...huhuhuhu desperado lah tu!!

Well I am not really the good advisor for diet actually...but I have tips to share with you to maintain your ideal weight or reduce weight in my next post...I also consume supplement that really worked for me on strecthmark (actually visibilty disappears) and improve smoothness on my whole body skin....Okay...i need to sleep now...Salam & Cheerio

Bless to you ... Ladies...

I just read the sunday tabloids and papers and I felt SICK! Sick of all the stories, gossips and 'acting' that created by Malaysian celebrities... The thing that I am sick is when some celebrities were not that famous but being infamous for such controversial gossips such as... try to ruin someone else Marriage... Well, from last year, Abby-Norman, Nora Danish and now Ustaz Akhil Hayy- Waheeda. Not to mentioned non-celebrities, normal people like us...

Statistics showed that 80-85% broken marriages caused by 3rd person and betrayal. I could not agreed more. Lots of betrayal comes from husband and there are some from wives. Whatever it is the children will be victimised by the situation and confusion especially when they are still young.

I am not going to brag about this as I am no motivator, psychiatrist, marriage advisor or Psychologist. But what I want to share in my blog are some real stories that happened to my own dear friends and family members. It is up to you to believe or otherwise because I will protect their identities and privacies. To those who know who you are...I hope you do not mind for being anonymously letting me share them in my blog.

Story 1

She was just a housewife and married to a good looking man but didnt conceived any child until they were married for about 7 years. Then they had a boy but after the son was only about 8 years old, her husband past away. She had to struggle financially as she never work before. The savings and insurance from her late husband were not enough to survive for the best of her child. She did all the work that she could as she was not high educated.

I didnt have to tell what sort of jobs she did but as long they were 'halal' and clean in our religion. After 17 years she struggled just to get the best education and life for her son and neglecting her own personal need, the outcome paid-off. Now her son is becoming a real gentleman, good son, good person, respect others, protective to his mom, very well groomed guy, high educated and will be having tremendous career ahead. To you 'great' mom...you can just seat back and relax now...let your son row his boat... you've done great job! Don't worry much about him...pray for him.

Story 2

She is a good looking lady, no doubt about that. She had 3 great kids, great career, highly educated and great personalities. But men are just men, never enough when it comes to women. She was suffering for 3 years due to her husband betrayal and affair with other woman whom i think was low rank kind of lady... I ranked that due to her education level and even her looks. She caught her husband twice in 'the act' that made her lost her patience and finally his husband divorced her.

She was chased out from the house with her kids by her husband and her parents in-laws. She was devastated...didn't know where to go but finally Allah showed her the way. Even now she is still struggling financially, at least she live to her fullest as a single mother with her kids. As for her ex husband, he still try to make her life misarable in anyway...But God is Great...There will be time where suffering will be his 'friend' later. I hope she will find someone who can eventually love her and her kids and make her happy...because I don't think she ever lost her beauty after all the sufferings she had, but maybe she need to be cautious and careful of being hurt again.

Story 3

When this person told me this story I was like 'what??!!' is this a movie or what!? Is it real or just illusion? She was a great mom with a great 6 kids. I believe her earlier marriage was like anyone else, hope for the best, tried to be best wife, best mom and have best family...But sometimes never happened according to plan but they happened for reasons... She was left homeless with the kids... and the worst part her ex-husband poured boiling water on her face while she was asleep just to wake her up??!!

He was really hell of a psychopathic man! Well, the blessing was someone paid for her plastic surgery to fixed back her face and well now... she got new face but better looks and without wrinkles and freckles. In directly, she should thanks to her ex-husband...(just kidding..)..and for him...he just have to serve a little longer in the 'cell'. To you strong lady... there are still good men out there...so just give them a chance...!!!

Story 4

About this piece of story, I didn't expect this to happen as I know she was a nice lady, kind-hearted, intelligent, so calm and patience is always with her. Of course, she is very high educated and career women but yet never neglected her family. I never know since so many years knowing her, she has been in an ugly marriage life for the past 10 years. She tried to keep her marriage life as private as possible so that the ugliness of her ex husband character would not leak to anyone. Not only her ex-husband were having affairs with few 'low rank' women, he also hit and beat her. She told me he hit her till one day her ear drum injured badly that she was send to the hospital and she also had once miscarriage. And still she didn't make police report. The reason being, she still want to save the marriage for the sake of the kids.

She admited that she was being stupid because she loved him and the marriage. But I guess enough is enough, when recently she planned to file for divorce and egoisticaly her ex-husband divorced her before she could even file at the court. Well as for her ex-husband, he tried to be nice to his kids well, sorry to say...they are big enough to know 'who you are' and what you've done to her remarkable mother. As for you my friend, wake up! life is short just ignore him, pay attention just to yourself and your kids...So Move On!!!

Story 5

I consider the normal typical imperfect lady, having great kids, having professional husband and having good career but still, life isn't always perfect. Her husband betrayed her and considering he was never feel happy for the past years even the 2 kids came along to thier lives and while she was pregnant the 3rd, he found his 'true' love that he decided to divorce her way before she even delivered her 3rd child. Well the divorced process took place after the 3rd good looking baby delivered and as for her, she was quite prepared for it and she just prayed that one day all her sufferings will turn to thousands of happiness and full of blessings.

Her ex-husband married the 'disgrace' woman right after he was clearly 'unattached' as that was the condition to marry her. Anyway, life is full of miracle...the friend of mine ended her hurts and pains right after she was formally divorced because all she need was only her kids and maybe just here and there things to claim for her & kids' rights... But God works in miracle ways... Allah granted her real love and being love that she never found ever before.... It makes her life so meaningful and bless each and everyday.

For those who shared the stories with me...I urge you to keep on filling your life with love and attention to yourself and your kids (if you have any). Don't give up looking for happiness and pray hard because God knows what is best for you.

It is absolutely vital for you to move forward with life and love. Being willing to trust again is key. Take things one step at a time these points may help:

• Don't try to make sense out of nonsense.



• Rationalizing your cheating spouse's behavior or sympathizing with him/her is pointless.



• It is never OK to go outside of your relationship to solve problems within a relationship. It's not your fault.



• Time heals nothing. It is what you do with the time that matters.



• Remember that it is better to be healthy alone than sick with someone else.



• Remember, kids would rather be from a broken home than live in one.



• They're much better off with one well-adjusted, happy, thriving parent, than they are with two who are cheating, lying, fighting, and living with stress and pressure.
  
  
  

  As for the pathetic and ungrateful Men on this earth and all the low disgraceful 'bi****' in the world who feels great by ruining someone's family and leaving the kids heartbroken, well Remember... What comes around goes around... the best part, either he or you are not worth it. One day you'll cry much worst than those whom you hurt, untill your tears dried and turn to blood. Trust me, you will face that worst than us!!! So Good Luck then!!!